Knowing when to walk away

Life is full of lessons and one of the most important ones l' m still learning is knowing when to walk away. But real talk when is the right time to walk away from situation?

Honestly there is no one size fits all answer to this question but over the years l have come to realise that gut(yep that feeling in your stomach not the one of hunger lebo),your intuition especially for women often tells you all you need know ,while for believers its their faith in God that guides them .

You would think this would make it easy for people to walk away (from these messy situations) but it is not that simple.

Toxic relationships

I have learnt that life isn't as black and white as we are made to believe when we were growing up. Take women in abusive relationships for example many stay , defend their abusers, or even blame themselves (to be clear l am in no way victim shamming anyone who has been in abusive relationship before) The point l am making is that its only human nature to hope sometimes irrationally that there is a little bit of good in everyone.But the hard truth is some people will never change no matter how good you are to them.

So when is the right time to walk away?

The best time is when the situation threatens your safety. A clear sing you made right decision is when you feel at peace afterwards , no regrets ,just clarity and ability to walk with your head held high.

Walk away when the situation is emotionally toxic and is affecting your mental health . Over the past two years we have seen a rise in people taking their own lives due to toxic relationships. Some cases have even escalated to violence even murder ngoba they missed warning signs and stayed too long.

Toxic friendships

Studies have show that it is human nature to abuse what we get for free, we begin to take it for granted .That is how toxic friendships are born. Some friends one sided were one person is constantly gives and other only takes.

So how do you know you are being used in a friendship? When you are always always providing support, help or resources and its never reciprocated .

Some people especially those with whats known as the " broken bird syndrome" believe that if we love our friends enough we can fix them. Others seek validation from their friend groups. But the truth is deep down know when something feels off and when a relationship stifling our growth . That's your cue to walk away from such friendships.

While some friendships are meant to last a life time, others serve temporary purpose ,know the difference.

Toxic Jobs

Walking away from a relationships may seems tough, however waling away from toxic job ,that's a whole different battle.

What about that job that drains you to the point that you say a little prayer and pep talk before you drag yourself out of bed every morning .Many people stay because ,well we need the money. And there are not lying have you seen the cost of living lately .

You sit on the edge of the bed torn between two options mental wellbeing or the toxic job.Some even adopt toxic ways to cope just to make it through the day.That's is not living merely existing. If that's not a sign to walk away l don't know what is.

I once heard a man say he does not stay in one job for more than three years, at first l thought wow he leaving jobs others dream of having.But then I realised he left because he had reached his potential in each of those jobs and they could no longer provide the growth he needed in his career. I admired his courage and ability to recognise when its time to let go even from an environment that had provided the comfort and stability needed . Walking away from such environment boldness, a leap of faith .

The power of walking away

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Walking away from comfortable situations takes faith and courage as

Oprah Winfrey once said that the common thing we have as human beings is to feel loved and appreciated, so when a relationship (romantic or non-romantic) is not providing that its hard to work away.Not all situations were meant to last a life time.We miss our blessings by holding on to things for too long.

Let’s all learn to walk away from situations that do more harm than good to our spirits .(cava le walk kik)youtube.com/watch?v=Dbb7xeZGR-U As l walk into new spaces to fulfil my destiny.