My Father: My first love

They say a father is a girl first love, l guess they right. I grew up experiencing love all round first from my biological dad, then my uncles and grandfather OSangoza, Ontshintshi.

I am told when l was a baby whenever l would cry the only person who could stop me from crying was my grandfather (khulu Mpofu).He was a baby whisper and we were inseparable.

Khulu loved me so much he gave me a name Ntandokazikakhulu meaning grandfather s beloved if that does not confirm l was the favourite l do not know what will(l can see all grandchildren side eyeing me its fine).One of my favourite pictures of us together is one when l am carrying a cup (have been coffee lover since day one people) sharing his cup of coffee together every day was our norm (must have been tea since l was a baby but l chose coffee no offence to tea lovers.)

My daddy my look alike. Firstly he gave me his looks and love for soft life (all my father’s love the soft life) this man took me on my first plane ride at 8years. One distinct memory l remember is that we took a road trip together by bus l do not remember from were to were but l remember being given the princess treatment. I had my own sit which mom normally would not allow me to have (you know mothers and saving).There is nothing he did not buy for me along the way (only problem is it made me sick later).This is when you realise why mom says NO to some of these things, but the memories made still remain with me.

My uncles, boy do l have the most caring funny uncles. Those are my Gs (lol l laugh because none of them know what that means).Anyway these guys are humour personified. Take for example Daddy S and Daddy B we took a road trip together ( destination not important)one would think oh those two are always serious l was in tears with laughter its like they had a script full of jokes. I will not even go into Daddy B s wild examples that always live you wondering how the example is related to the conversation (yet you find yourself agreeing to what hez saying…it’s a gift).Daddy S on the other hand taught me everything l know about being a pharmacist(ngile Degree from UZ please ncela singaphikisani.)but nje l do not know why he gets shocked when l give him my self-diagnosed prescriptions l mean l learnt from the best THE Pharmaceutical Society of Zimbabwe President himself.(once president always a president)

Then there is my uncle Daddy V brilliant man self-taught and very resourceful very funny man who tells the most interesting stories one time he went to clinic to get his finger stiches as he got cut working at home.This man finds a very long queue yet somehow he gets saved first and nurses and people in queue are in stiches laughing not realising man had moved up the Queue kiki..l do not know how you write this type of skill on the CV.Uncle S my home boy ,he used to help me get out of doing chores at home and we shared a love for cricket (in my head he was the big brother l never had).He would make me watch horror movies knowing l would be scared to sleep at night.This guy was the Nickname king we all had nicknames that should just die in family period.

Daddy N (ngishilo nje ukuba obaba bam baningi) he used to buy me nice food and he is the first person who introduced me to church. Took me everywhere in the hood (back then l was killing it with steps game).So one thing about my dad’s they had talent you would not expect. Daddy N at some point was a DJ yep he was pretty popular back then. Then lastly but not least Daddy SN he taught me how to swim like literary, he is probably the tallest person in my family kikik(says the shortest person in the family).If he were still around l would have told him to sort out all people hlukuluzing my life.(it’s a word google it).

l just want to appreciate the many fathers who have looked out for me, prayed for me REV HR SAWASAWA, the BROTHERS OMALUME, ABOMZALA who are ready to defend my honour before they hear the whole story. The men who are a true example of what it means to be a father and husband l appreciate you guys ,The Tapiwas that claim to be richer than the rich aunty and liberties that are always ready to do a girl a favour and the Erics who are ready to call a girl out THANK YOU. I might not mention you all but thank you gents for even reading the articles but Mostly for being there to protect us show us the way…ngempela LIZINHLOKO.